In our career, we all yearn five elements: achieving our potential, having a good lifestyle, helping others, being socially validated, and being financially safe. You must spend time unpacking all those categories, what they mean for you and which ones do you prioritise over others.

You should be a chef, and not a cook. That is, you should reason from first principles instead of by analogy.

There are three key ingredients necessary: you should have an epic friendship with them (enjoy their humour, have fun together), you should feel at home (safe, accepted for who you are) and they should be committed to having a healthy relationship (communicating, being equal).

Our goal is to develop as much wisdom as possible, as early as possible. It's to see the truth for what it is, to tame our animal instincts and grow as a higher being.