Tim Urban has become one of the Internet’s most popular writers. With wry stick-figure illustrations and occasionally epic prose on everything from procrastination to artificial intelligence, Urban's blog, Wait But Why, has garnered millions of unique page views, thousands of patrons and famous fans like Elon Musk.
In our career, we all yearn five elements: achieving our potential, having a good lifestyle, helping others, being socially validated, and being financially safe. You must spend time unpacking all those categories, what they mean for you and which ones do you prioritise over others.
You should be a chef, and not a cook. That is, you should reason from first principles instead of by analogy.
There are three key ingredients necessary: you should have an epic friendship with them (enjoy their humour, have fun together), you should feel at home (safe, accepted for who you are) and they should be committed to having a healthy relationship (communicating, being equal).