Alain de Botton is a Swiss-born British philosopher and author. His books discuss various contemporary subjects and themes, emphasizing philosophy's relevance to everyday life.
Stop expecting the best out of life, be happy with what you have. Don't be too harsh on yourself, laugh at your mistakes. Spend time with yourself and be clear about what you want and how you're feeling. Remember that you're just one human in the universe - most of your problems probably don't really matter. Embrace who you truly are.
Helping others. Creating something great. Learning and discovering how things work. Connecting with others.
You might find it helpful to consider your decision from different point of views: 1) What would your enemies want you to do? 2) What does your reason say? 3) What would you do if you were incredibly courageous? 4) Think about the day of your death. What will you regret? 5) What does your gut say?
Look for someone who is kind to you, someone with whom you can be vulnerable and open up, someone who is interested in understanding you - and you're interested in understanding too.
Get to know yourself. Think about everything you've ever enjoyed doing - even if it didn't make any money and try to find patterns. Accept that it's a long process. And finally, try something. Don't get paralysed by choice.
Every couple will face moments of rupture and repair. To face those, you need four skills. 1/ the ability to apoligise 2/ the ability to forgive 3/ the ability to teach your partner how you feel and what works for you 4/ the ability to learn what your partner is, and the modesty to admit you still have things to improve on
You should always remember that everyone was a child once and has been hurt one way or another in their lives, and this is likely to be the reason for their negative emotions and behaviours. Show compassion.